Isn’t it much easier to decide who’s fault it is than to stick your neck out and lead?
Here’s a neat trick: Next time you’re setting out the pieces to play a round of the blame game, skip it. Instead, call out, “You know what, it was my fault.” (You’ve gotta mean it though–no sarcasm!) And then, quickly, set to work with the vastly more important question: “What are we going to do about it?”
Don’t just ask, though; come up with some proposals. Set the conditions for the conversation. Listen. Offer. Build.
After all, isn’t blame a pretty lame game?