Divorce & Infidelity
It is not a very uncommon fact that most divorce cases are caused by infidelity. Aside from marital abuse, this is another common reason given by women who decided to get separated from their former husbands. But women who are planning to do such should remember that each person is a unique individual. They shouldn’t let their inexperienced family members and friends tell them what to do.
If you are somebody who is planning to file divorce against your adulterous husband, then the following questions to yourself will surely be of great help:
1. Is this the first time that your husband has cheated on you? Understand that men, like women, commit unintended mistakes. But if your husband has already committed infidelity more than once, then necessary divorce papers should be on your hands right now. But you should still weigh the circumstances.
2. If your husband is weak against other women’s temptations, do you have the ability to still trust him despite this trait of his?
3. And if you can still trust him despite your husband’s unfaithfulness, ask yourself if he is doing everything to regain your faith.
4. Does your husband truly regret his infidel ways? Men are normally apologetic when they are caught cheating on their wives. The problem is that most of them just blame themselves and doesn’t take the necessary steps to correct their ways.
5. If your husband has already apologized to you, know if he blames you for his unfaithfulness. Why? Because studies show that a person’s habit of blaming others for his own mistakes will not help him be mature in dealing with his loved-ones.
6. Did your husband infect himself with a sexually-transmitted disease caused by having sex with another woman? Though this is not a strong ground for you to file divorce against him, ask yourself first if it is alright with you to make love with an STD-infected spouse.
Keep in mind that before filing divorce against your husband, know first if you and your husband are willing to work things out to save your relationship. And even if learning to forgive is not a difficult task, listening to your heart’s will is still the best way to care for yourself.